What better way to start my blogging career than to tell you about the best wedding I have ever been to? So, here it it….
The BEST WEDDING THAT I HAVE EVER BEEN TO was amazing because the couple decided to BREAK WITH TRADITION and get married in a way that reflected their personal style. They spent their whole wedding day together with their eight wedding attendants (why be separated from your partner on the best day of your life?), so they had a lot of fun together getting ready, they had all of their photos taken before the ceremony (so their guests didn’t have to wait around for the reception to start) and they were nice and relaxed during the ceremony. They arrived at the ceremony together and and gave themselves away to each other, which really reflected their intentions and the trajectory of their life journeys. There were no fancy bouquets, wedding dresses or expensive cars and their friends photographed and filmed the day for them, which meant that they could spend their hard-earned moula on an overseas odyssey. Don’t get me wrong, I tear up as much as the next person when I see a bride in a big white dress walking down the aisle with her family, but those kind of wedding traditions weren’t for this couple and their guests knew this, so it worked a treat.
It was the BEST WEDDING THAT I HAVE EVER BEEN TO because the couple SURPRISED THEIR GUESTS by revealing that they had eloped and were already hitched overseas (obviously I wasn’t their celebrant!). As you can imagine a couple of people had their noses out of joint, but the couple had filmed their overseas ceremony and showed the film in the ceremony here in Australia. The cheeky surprise that the couple had revealed served to unify the guests and really give them something to talk about for the rest of night, an icebreaker if you will. Most importantly, it was interesting – no one wants another formulaic ceremony. Make your marriage or commitment ceremony as interesting as you are.
The BEST WEDDING THAT I HAVE EVER BEEN TO was unreal fun because there was lots of singing and dancing, which lead to much AUDIENCE PARTICIPATION. Okay, so the singing and dancing was at the reception, but nonetheless, participatory entertainment at a wedding is really important. At this wedding the couple and some of the wedding attendants ended up singing and dancing during their speeches (they are definitely not known for their singing prowess) and the whole crowd joined in. People love a sing-a-long just as much as they love to dance to ‘Don’t Blame It On The Sunshine’ by The Jackson 5. So, if you can afford it, make sure your reception venue has a microphone, a dance floor and don’t skimp on your DJ.
Finally, this was the BEST WEDDING THAT I HAVE EVER BEEN TO because there was a NATURAL DISASTER in Queensland just before their wedding. What??? Bear with me okay? While no couple in their right mind would wish to have a natural disaster in their home town the week of their wedding, for this couple it worked. They were due to have their wedding the week of the 2011 Floods and they had to change their venue two days before and communicate with their 100 guests about it. Several of the guests were flood bound until hours before the ceremony and came to the wedding in their mud army gear. In fact, the matron of honour was stuck in a different state because she couldn’t get through by road and her infant was not well enough to fly; she had to video link into the ceremony and reception to do her reading and give her speech. My point is that the couple made lemonade out of the lemons that mother nature threw at Queensland, and it unified their guests by giving them common ground. It also allowed the couple to let go of all of the pretense and distracting wedding ‘stuff’ and focus on what was important – getting all of the people that they love into one place to witness them declaring their love and commitment to each other. You probably won’t have a flood happen to your wedding, but find a way to UNIFY YOUR GUESTS beyond how they know you and you will have a happy crowd.
So there you have it, my top tips for having the BEST WEDDING THAT I HAVE EVER BEEN TO are:
- BREAK WITH TRADITION;
- SURPRISE YOUR GUESTS;
- AUDIENCE PARTICIPATION; and
- UNIFY YOUR GUESTS (hopefully not with a natural disaster).
Happy wedding planning!